I happened upon this quote while looking for something entirely different, but obviously this was the intended message for me because this baby jumped right off the page and into my lap and has layed there ever since. It resonates with me on several levels. First, it really touches me as a mother because there are many times when I am not aware of how great a "thing," an event, or a thought actually is to my children. Perfect example... my son just came running up so excited... I mean like jumping up and down, crazy flipping stunt-on-the-floor excited that....(drum roll please....) on his Roblox computer game, he just got a new shirt with an orange fire-breathing dragon on it. To me, well, to me it's something I am happy for him about but in a way that is like... "great, now can I finish writing this blog" kind of happy. But to him, oh MAN it is really a fantastic thing... almost like me ordering that new pair of winter boots and jeans I've been wanting. Probably even bigger.
Or when my daughter is writing a story on the computer, and I hurriedly ask her to log off because it's dinner time. Then she protests, and I get angry that she's not listening to me and it escalates into something that is uglier than need be. But what I often fail to see is that all that typing... all that effort that she is pouring onto the keyboard has been incubating in her heart for weeks. This is her baby. She is as proud of her story as someone would be of creating a new law supporting unemployment. She is as proud of her story as someone advancing Peace Talks between nations.
Good Old Mark Twain got the idea, didn't he? And how spectacular it is that the things, events, and thoughts we adults might deem "silly" or " minuscule" in our kids' lives are truly magnificent to them, and should be to us as well. Children know how to see miracles in everything, don't they? And we really shouldn't stop with our children, should we? We should extend the idea of proportion not only to being more aware of our childrens' things, events, and thoughts but to each individual we come in contact with whether it be the grocery store cashier, our friends, or our spouses. But let's take baby steps here. It's going to be a challenge just to do it with my own kids let alone the cashier, But I'll get there!
And one more thought on this quote... when I am going through tough times, I tend to say, "well, I know that I shouldn't be so down because other people go through many worse fates," or "I should feel lucky because it could be worse... we could have terrible health issues, or we could be living in poverty, or dead." And my sweetheart mom has always said, "Yes, it could be worse, BUT you still feel pain over your problem, and it's still real and true for YOU. Your problems are valid and apply to you. You can't compare your problems to others' problems. Mr. Twain and my mom are pretty smart cookies!
Which leads to my last quick thought about Mr. Twain's quote.... Proportion means "the relationship of one thing to another in size, degree, and amount." Knowing that each of us are living from our own vantage point, our own perspective... that no other person in the world is standing in our shoes and experiencing exactly what we're experiencing, and that the "eternal laws of proportion" are in play, how can we possibly judge another? Kind of silly even trying, isn't it?
So, today I intend to be more present and more aware of what is really important in my children's (and the store clerk's) lives, not what I think SHOULD be important in their lives, but whatever THEY deem important... and value it.
And I intend to leave judgement to the Universe.
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